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Finding Someone Special
By: Cheryl Lewis
Browsing through the personal classifieds can be quite frustrating if
you really dont know what qualities or the type of personality it is
that you are searching for in the person you are seeking, or in the
relationship you are seeking.
Questions you need to ask yourself before and as you are reading
through the personal sections again are: Why are you searching for
someone, do you want a companion, a serious relationship or just to
make friends with someone new with the hopes of dating. Who are you
looking for, are you searching for someone tall, short, thin, stout,
young, old, divorced, widowed, single, married, and the list goes on
to include all personal choices and preferences in people.
Discussing this theory a little more in detail – If you have a problem
dating someone with kids, you should skip over the classifieds that
reveal those people who have kids or you will only be letting yourself
down in the end when you are building a relationship. This theory
pertains to all of the listings, for example, if you are searching for
someone that is just for you, without ever sharing that person with
another, search for someone who has never been married or who is not a
widow (widower). Once you know whom you are searching for, you will be
able to read the personal classifieds with more confidence and
decision making abilities.
Read the classifieds completely, tracking the writing that interests
you the most so that you can go back and compare, reread or contact
that person. Reading through the entire personal section, or at very
least the section that applies your target interest group, you will
find a variety of people with vast differences in personalities just
through the short descriptions available.
Now is the tough time to write your contact letter, made much simpler
if you have already created your profile for replies to read about
you. Starting your reply is easy with an opening such as, I have read
your profile and found you are most intriguing (interesting, exciting,
provocative) or you could use something more elaborate such as Your
profile interested me to the point where I had to contact you right
away to find out what we have in common. While there are many
expressions and various phrases you can use when writing your opening
letter, the contact letter is truly going to be a reflection of your
personality, and what you are searching for in a relationship.
The first example of I have read your profile and found you are most
intriguing, would reveal that you are interested. Are you searching
for friendship in the classified section? Try using the first example
building on that sentence to read along the lines of: I would like
the opportunity to get to know you better and talk a while. But if
you are searching for a lover through the personals, the second
sentence could read: I really would love to get to know you better,
find out what type of person you are searching for and hopefully to
create a match with you. The point here is to keep your true feelings
within the boundaries of words, not scaring off someone if you are
just wanting to be friends, while on the other hand if you are
searching for a lover dont hide behind words of a friendly chat.
Top ideas to use in your opening introduction letter are express your
interest to your potential date using your writing to express why
you are contacting that person. Reveal to this person how you propose
to meet their needs in their search for a friend, companion or lover
using expressive words such as I intend to or I would like to or
even I have been searching through the classifieds and found your
profile appealing to me because. Give just a few hints about your
where you are located, without revealing to much about your without
determining whether the two of you will continue a conversation. Use
phrases like, I am from the east coast or I live south of
California or other such general terms, revealing your location to a
particular location through later conversations. Your initial contact
with a proposed date should be about the type of person you are
searching for, why you have been using resources online to search for
someone special, and what you are hoping to gain from a relationship
from this person with personal details revealed through additional
conversations as your relationship trust grows.
Online personals have been created for the user to act anonymously
while investigating the possibilities of friendship, love and for
finding that someone special to spend your life with. Using your
thoughts and feelings through this situation, creatively with
expressive words without misleading readers will allow you to reach
your destination, of finding that someone special, faster and easier
that you would be able to in any other situation.
About the author: Cheryl Lewis writes for http://www.drdating.com – If
you are single and looking for love then this is the site for you.
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