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By: Britney Holloway
Speed dating events are the newest rage in town. After all, meeting
some twenty odd people in the span of one evening has to throw up some
good prospects. Dates stretch from a miniscule three minutes to a
loooong ten minutes and at the end of it every single out there has
ticked off his or her choices. After the event, if two people have
ticked against each other a match is declared and the two people are
provided each others contact information. Some daters can land up to
seven matches in one evening while there are those who have to walk
away without a match. So why is there such a big gap in the numbers?
And what can you do to maximize your chances of a match at a speed
Michelle and Lori, who oversee a speed dating event every three days,
came up with six very simple tricks to make an impact in three
Trick One : Treat it like a job interview
When you go in to get that dream job, you dress to make an impression,
work on your resume and try to present yourself in the best light
possible. Think of the whole speed dating evening as a series of a
mini interviews, for the post of your date, partner, soul mate.
Dress to make an impression, ask questions and above all stay lively
Trick Two : Create a Resume
No, you dont need to sit down at the mini date and wave a copy of
your resume into the face of every guy/gal you get to speed date. This
is one resume you make for your self. List down on this resume your
current life stage. A life stage mentions in one sentence, where
you are in life right now for e.g. a thirty something single with a
successful career, looking for companionship, or a single parent
looking for support Then put down two paragraphs, one about yourself
and one about the kind of person you are looking for. When writing
down what you are looking for in your date be specific. Someone
romantic can be someone who takes you out for a candle light dinner
or someone who gives you a high by dancing with you all night. Be
specific about your kind of romantic. Also list down things which
are deal breakers. If you cant stand cigarette smoke, a smoker is
a no no and if you are allergic to cats, a person with pets is out
of the fray. Once you are done, get a good friend to read through
these to give you a reality check. You will now be much better
prepared to pick the right people in three minutes.
Trick Three : Dress to impress
You would dress conservatively when going for a job interview. The
same applies here. Dont wear itsy- bitsy dresses or show up looking
like you are ready to go camping. Make sure your dress is comfortable.
There is nothing more distracting than a date fiddling with their
dress through out the allotted ten minutes. Make sure your hair is
well groomed, wear good shoes and use cologne or after- shave.
Trick Four : Be prepared
Before going for an interview, you read up about the company and
prepare questions you would like answered about the position. In
pretty much the same way, come up with a list of questions you would
like your date to answer in the ten minutes you have. Throw run of the
mill questions like What do you do? and Where do you live?, out of
the window. Ask interesting, open ended questions, which tell you more
about the person like What kind of people do you like hanging out
with?, and What would your best friend say about you?
Trick Five : Dont Whine
You would not inundate the interviewer at the job interview with
whines about past bosses and bitchy co workers. Stick to the same rule
here. Do not mention your ex, the guy who stalked you ( or the one
you stalked )! Also avoid territory that leads to talk about a
dysfunctional family or myriad diseases plaguing anyone around you.
Ten minutes can be a very long time if one has to listen to someone go
on about the digestive disorder their senile aunt suffered from a few
Trick Six : Avoid the Negatives
At a job interview the you skirt all your negatives and accentuate all
positives. At a speed date too, accentuate your positives. Do not
inundate the guy/girl you are talking too, with a list of everything
thats wrong with you. Its not a confessional and you dont have to
get all your sins off your chest right now. But that does not mean
that you feel free to lie to come up looking good. Be honest yourself
only then would you be able to expect honesty from others.
Now go out there into the big bad world of speed dating with the
confidence that you are going to land this job!
About the author: Britney Holloway writes for
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