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Diving Into The Online
By: C Raymond Merrick
Looking to spice up your single life a little?, add some romance?…
or maybe find that perfect love connection?
Cool! – jump in, the online dating waters are just fine. And by the
way, you’ll encounter over 3 MILLION others already splashing around
when you do decide to take the plunge. So you’ll have lots of new and
If you’re new, or relatively new to the online dating scene, this
article will get you headed down the right path. Follow the tips and
recommendations presented here and your initial experiences will be
more enjoyable and yield better results.
Do a search of “online dating”, and you’ll be presented with more than
2.9 MILLION web pages from which to make your selection! Hmm, a bit
overwhelming to say the least. But don’t let the huge numbers
discourage you. Try the selection method below, and you can easily
find your perfect dating site match.
Your first order of business, as stated above, will be getting matched
up with one or more dating sites that fit you and your needs. The
questions below should help you narrow things down.
What Type Dating Site?
Plain Vanilla – no ethnic, religious or cultural themes.
Black/Ebony/African American, Asian, Italian, Christian, Senior
Citizen, the choices are numerous.
Do some searching using the terms below as a guide.
“online dating” + senior
“online dating” + Christian
“online dating” + ebony OR black OR African American
“online dating” + Asian
“online dating” +
Get the idea? A search on each of the examples above will yield pretty
much what you would expect.
If you’re on a tight budget, just add the word “free”.
“online dating” + free
“online dating” + senior + free …etc.
A note about free sites…, REALLY FREE dating sites with lots of
members, and lots of member services, and activity are pretty hard to
come by. You’ll understand better after you do a few searches for free
A search for dating reviews and forums can be helpful also.
“online dating” + reviews
“online dating” + forum
With the dating related forums you can read about good and bad
experiences others have had with particular dating and personals web
Dating services reviews will give you some good info as well. Look for
genuine, unbiased reviews. Many of the dating reviews sites out there
are willy-nilly listings someone threw together to earn commissions.
Another way to find good dating sites, is by asking friends and
co-workers who may have tried, or are using online dating or personals
services. You may be surprised to find out how many of your friends
are members of some personals site or other.
Monthly fees vary widely, but the average is around $24. Most
dating/singles sites will give you a discount if you pay for 2, 3, 6
or 12 months in advance.
I would suggest you only buy into a one month membership with any new
dating service you join. If you decide you like it, then extend your
membership. If you don’t like the service, you’ve cut your loses, and
avoided the hassles of requesting a refund, or canceling billing.
Tight Budget Dating Tip: Most free dating sites have low activity, and
member activity is what makes personals and dating sites tick.
Solution: Join 3, 4 or more free dating sites. If you find that their
combined activity serves your needs… you’re good to go. If not,
you’ll have gained a good familiarity with online dating, and a better
understanding of what you want, when and if you decide to plunk down
some bucks for a paid membership.
Telling Your Pool-Side Story
Now write your story (aka: member profile). No great detail, just
write like you’re writing to the man or woman you seek.
Write a little about you. State one or more of your unique qualities.
Write a little about the person you’re seeking.
You’ll save some time if you write and save all your profile data to a
text editor or word processor file. Then, you can COPY and PASTE it to
the proper area of your online dating profile.
As things change, and as you grow, you will want to update and modify
your profile statements.
A Picture Is Worth a Thousand Words
You will generally get 3 to 10 times better response with a posted
photo than without. People don’t generally dwell too long on profiles
with no photos… so take the hint.
If you don’t have a digital camera, web cam or scanner, take a few
photos and a diskette to your local OfficeDepot, Staple or office
supply store. They should be able to scan you photos to diskette. Then
you can easily add one or more to your dating site profile. You could
also ask friends and relatives who own a digital camera or scanner.
Digital cameras, web cams, and scanners are very inexpensive these
days. Check eBay for some of the best deals.
Stay Focused and On-Track
You may want to start a journal, (on paper, or in a text file) to log
your “love search” progress. Make notes of URL links of sites you
liked, new member specials, monthly fees, member benefits and
services, restrictions, etc.
When I first started, I also wrote out a statement describing what I
wanted to accomplish by joining a dating site. You may want to do the
same. These statements, and a journal will help keep you focused and
organized. Organized endeavors always yield greater results than
This is actually part of the title of an upcoming article, but I
mention it here to stress use of common sense, safety and caution when
dealing with ANY dating situation – on or offline.
Now… jump in your skivvies and take the dive!
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