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5 Ways to Having Your
Best Internet Dating Profile Possible! by Amy Schoen
Copyright 2005 Heartmind Connection, LLC
You are finally biting the bullet and decided to try internet dating.
You have narrowed down to one or two sites that your friends have
recommended that you try where they are having success meeting people.
Now its up to you to write your internet profile. Thats the hard
Or perhaps you have had your internet dating profile up for a while
and have not seen much action lately. Perhaps it is time for you to
reevaluate your profile and see if you can make improvements to
attract more quality candidates to your internet profile.
How do you package yourself in a way that will attract the right
people to you? What if writing is not your forte? If you follow the 5
ideas outlined below, you will be putting your best foot forward and
on your way to experiencing the excitement of internet dating or
revitalizing your internet dating potential.
For those new to internet dating, after checking out the format of the
profile and how others are presenting themselves, I encourage you to:
1. Present the most authentic you!
Show your potential dates the real you. If you put down stuff that you
are not, you will attract the wrong people and eventually it will come
out eventually. For examples, if you cant stand cats and say you like
animals, then what will you do if your date has a cat? My philosophy
is what you put out there is what you will attract. Just like an ad in
a magazine- if a company advertises a car with a powerful engine, That
ad will attract people who want that feature in a car.
So it is best to be honest and upfront with your profile. Describe
what you need and want in a relationship. Dont be afraid to ask for
what you want (as long as it is socially appropriate!). If you want
marriage and a family then put that down in your profile. You will
attract those who want the same things as you and turn away those who
would be scared by that commentthats a good thing!
2. Tell your audience whats unique about you!
What sets you apart from the next guy or gal? What is special about
you? Do you have any special talents or skills? You want someone in
your life who appreciates that about you. If you have an artistic
bent, or you sing in a chorus, describe that! If you run marathons or
help out with volunteer activities, put that down, as well. This will
set you apart from the other internet profiles out there.
3. Take your reader into your experiences with you!
I believe in bringing the reader into the experiences that you truly
value. Not just superficially mention you like running through the
park, but send out an invitation for them to join you. For instance,
one of my clients described how he loves to jog in a city park in the
fall when the air is crisp and the leaves are multi-tonal. Doesnt
this description have a come join me feeling?
Dont just mention that you like concerts and movies. Describe what
kind of concerts you prefer and types of movies you love. Remember,
you want to attract those who have similar tastes.
4. Describe whats truly important to you!
What gets you up in the morning? What truly motivates you in life? One
of my clients truly values giving of herself to the community. She is
an avid volunteer. Im sure she wants to attract someone who also
values giving to the community as well. When you get beyond the
superficial, you will attract those who say, this person seems to be
the kind of person I want to meet!
5. Invest in hiring a professional for the all important photo!
We do live in a visual society and we do judge a book by a cover!
Studies have shown that the photo is the key to whether a person
decides to check out your profile or not. If you are not sure how you
come across in the photo, then ask a friend or co-worker for their
opinion. I request that my clients get a professional photo 95% of the
Some internet dating sites do provide you with a list of photographers
in your area who specialize in internet dating photos. As an added
bonus, you will have a photo of yourself to give to your family
members come December!
By following the ideas presented above, I guarantee that you will see
an improvement in the type of people who are contacting you and the
responses you are getting from those you are contacting. This is the
first step towards meeting the man or woman of your dreams!
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